I believe people come into our lives for a reason - to teach us something. My recent experience with Chief taught me a whole host of things, but I think the biggest and most relevant to my current life outlook is to have expectations.
I used to be the kind of person who didn’t believe in having expectations because then you could never be disappointed. Let’s be honest, being let down makes you feel like crap. Now I’m starting to realize that a little disappointment never hurt anyone.
When I was younger and got in trouble, my mother was never mad at me, she was always disappointed. I always wanted her to just be angry. Her being disappointed made me feel that much worse because I knew better. I should have done the right thing.
Disappointment just means that there is more work to be done. Something isn’t right; it isn’t where it needs to be. I think having expectations means pushing yourself to be better than you are and pushing the people around you to be better than they are.
High expectations might leave you disappointed at times, but why settle for less than what you deserve? If you expect nothing then you’ll get nothing. (I know this firsthand now).
If you expect x,y,z then don’t stop demanding x,y,z. You’re selling yourself short otherwise.